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Setting Your Child Up For Financial Success

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Since we have announced that we are expecting our first child, we have been putting a lot of thought into how we can set our child up for success. We’ve discussed private school vs. public school, reading to them, and teaching them various things. But how do you go about setting your child up for financial success?

Why It Is Important

Neither one of our families had great financial success when we were younger. In fact, there were a lot of moments we remember our parents struggling. Because of this, setting our little ones up with what they need to be financially stable is important to us. It should be important to you, too.

When you are able to display good money habits for your kids, it makes it easier for them to be a financially stable individual as an adult. Beyond that, providing a financially sound environment for your children will also help reduce their own anxiety and tensions in the home all around. So, how do you go about setting your child up for financial success?

Setting Your Child Up For Financial Success

At an early age, you begin doing things with your child to help boost their development. For many families, this takes the form of a nighttime reading session, socializing your child with others, and teaching them some level of responsibility. As they grow older, it is important to also teach them some financial lessons.

  • Encourage saving. Large purchases in life typically take some kind of planning and usually saving. Try and encourage your child to save up for big items they want or things that are important to them.
  • Open a checking account. When your kid reached high school age, it is a good time to open a checking account for them. It will help them learn responsible spending practices. Additionally, when they start working, they will be able to receive a direct deposit.
  • Add your child as an authorized user. Once they have gotten used to using a checking account, consider adding them on as an authorized user on your credit card. This can help teach them more responsibility and kickstart their credit score.
  • Talk to them about their credit. Many young adults enter their lives without knowing anything about their credit score or how to improve it. Be sure you talk to your child about their credit and educate them on secured credit cards. They can be a great way to help them at the beginning of their financial journey.

Bottomline

There are a lot of things that go hand-in-hand with parenting a child that many people don’t often think about. Educating them about finances starting at a young age with saving and through their teenage years will help set them up for financial success later in life.

Readers, when you had your children how did you teach them about money, saving, and debt?

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Big News From Our Family!

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Over the past few months, a lot of the blog posts on Our Debt Free Family have been hinting at big changes coming our way. My husband got a new job that he is able to work from home and we’ve been reworking our budget. We’ve been doing all of this in preparation for a huge change coming our way. So, what’s the big news?

*Cue drum roll*

Our Big News

We are expecting our first child!

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This week, we learned we are expecting a baby girl. Both of us are overjoyed with the idea of growing our little family. The first few months of the pregnancy we kept the news quiet between us and a few close family and friends. I was deathly ill for about eight weeks straight and it was exhausting. But, now that the first trimester (and then some) has passed, we are ready to share the news and get down to business.

Now that we know we are expecting a girl, it feels like there are a million and one things to do. People have asked about a registry already, we are looking at expenses and budgeting changes, and things we need to get done before the little one arrives. Not only do we need to get a nursery ready and get everything baby will need, but there are things like getting the car registered and updating our work computers that need to be done as well.

Financial Thoughts

So, that brings me to the financial aspect of our big news…

We have been putting our heads together trying to think about what our major priorities should be as September 2 approaches. Here are some of the bigger expenses and things we are hoping to accomplish over the next four and a half months.

  • Health insurance: I had to purchase health insurance earlier this year to pay for prenatal care. We did not qualify for Medicaid. This is an extra $278 bill each month. We will also need to purchase health coverage for the little one once she arrives.
  • Car repair and taxes: We recently spent a little over $600 on replacing all four tires on our vehicle. That was desperately needed. There are also a few more things we need to get done with the car, including paying our taxes here in North Carolina and getting our plates switched over from Georgia by July.
  • Work computers: Because we are both working from home, we are in need of new computers. Both of the laptops we’ve been working on are clinging on for dear life and need to be retired for travel computers. We will be looking at getting desktops for our in-home office.
  • Getaway: Next week, we will be going on one of two getaways we have planned before the baby arrives. We won’t be doing much (if any) travel during the first year of her life, so we want to be sure we have two nice trips together before then. The other trip will be planned before July 22, which is my medical cut-off date for travel.
  • Nursery: Of course, we will also be planning out and buying things for the nursery. Much of this will be bought for us. We both have large families that are looking forward to the new addition. It is the first grandchild and the first great-grandchild for much of our family. We are also applying for any and all freebies we possibly can. For example, the insurance company is going to cover the cost of a breast pump (yay). We also started our registry through Amazon, which will send a free Welcome Box with some baby items.

Getting Ready

Looking at that list above is a little daunting when you think about it all fitting into the next four and a half months. However, neither of us has any doubt it is doable with good planning. Most of all, we are looking forward to the arrival of our baby girl. I can’t wait to keep you updated on this process and how we handle everything each step of the way.

Readers, how did you prepare for your first child? What tips do you have to share?

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Five Big Challenges that Novice CFD traders face

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Newcomers face several challenges in the market at the beginning of their trading life. So, if they want to stay in the market, they need to learn how to deal with these. Otherwise, it would be tough for them to trade properly. Bear in mind, if you have sound knowledge about the market, trading will become easy for you. So, you have to know about the basic and technical factors so that you do not face any complications to take the right measures.  [Read more…]

Setting a New Budget With Variable Income

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If you’ve been following the blog recently, you know my husband got a new job. That’s great news for us. Two incomes are always better than one. However, that also means we need to go about setting a new budget.

Why We Are Setting a New Budget

So, obviously, the main reason for setting a new budget is that we now have more money coming in month-to-month. We also have different bills, goals, and needs than we did even four months ago. Because of this, it is crucial for us to sit down and really take a look at our finances.

My income has been steady for several years and will still be leaned on to pay the majority of our bills. This means his new income will be used to do things we’ve been putting off, stashing away money for savings, and paying off debt (yay). The biggest challenge with setting a new budget is that his monthly payments will vary.

How to Set a New Budget on a Variable Income

Because we have both had pretty set incomes in the past, budgeting on a variable income is a little different from what we are used to. So, I did some searching to see what some of the best tips for budgeting on a variable income are. The personal finance blog Money Crashers had some pretty great tips in a guide on their website. Here’s what we are taking away to use in our own budgeting method…

  1. Add up your non-discretionary spending, meaning the bills you have to pay every single month. Usually, this includes things like housing, utilities, groceries, transportation, insurance, debt payments, child care if you have kids, and taxes. Normally, if you are being paid a variable income, you will have to set aside money for taxes on your own, so it is a good thing to keep in mind.
  2. Take a stab at calculating your discretionary spending (the little things). This can be a little harder. Discretionary spending includes everything from holiday spending around Christmas to those tiny day-to-day debits like your morning coffee. You can take a stab at getting a solid number on this by looking at the spending on your bank accounts and credit cards. Formalize the difference between discretionary and non-discretionary expenses for your family. Know what is necessary and what is not.
  3. Then calculate the average monthly income you’ll have from the variable source. Generally, there will be the lowest amount per month you can expect from a job with a variable income. Then there will be higher amounts that may come in. Consider the higher-paid months windfalls and nothing more. Base your budget on the lower amount you may be paid. This way you won’t be caught by surprise if you don’t get paid as much as you’d hope.
  4. Set aside savings first. Once you have all of that figured out, be sure you set aside some savings as soon as your check from the variable income job hits. This money will serve as something to fall back on during the months you don’t make as much or the months where your expenses are higher (i.e. during the holidays).

Readers, have you had to set a budget on a variable income? How did you go about doing it? 

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How to Tell If You Are Suffering From Burnout

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Here lately I’ve been feeling pretty burnt out. I’m burnt out on work. I am feeling burnt out with friendships and daily activities. All in all, I am really feeling the need to unplug, take a step back, and just breathe. However, I always find myself feeling guilty for taking that time off. I should be working, doing this and that. That guilt got me thinking about how burnout affects other parts of my life and how to identify when that break is needed.

Signs of Burnout

Signs of burnout can be different for everyone, but there are some common symptoms that many people experience. According to Psychology Today, if you are feeling any of these things you may be experiencing burnout on some level:

Physical/Emotional Exhaustion

  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Chronic fatigue
  • Depression
  • Increased illness due to weakened immune system
  • Insomnia
  • Impaired concentration
  • Loss of appetite
  • Physical symptoms, such as chest pains, heart palpitations, and headache

Cynicism/Detachment

  • Feelings of detachment from others
  • Loss of enjoyment in things you usually love
  • Negative self-talk or pessimism
  • Self-isolation

Lack of Accomplishment Due to Burnout

  • Feelings of apathy
  • Irritability
  • Lack of productivity
  • Poor performance

Avoiding Burnout

Burnout is not unavoidable. In fact, there are a number of things you can do to make sure you don’t run yourself ragged (I just haven’t been doing them). Mommy Thrives is a mom blog that has covered some great ways to avoid burnout that you should try and implement in your day-to-day life. Here’s a quick list…

  • Change up your routine
  • Keep up with self-care
  • Schedule days where you are not working at all (or doing anything else for that matter)
  • Start a gratitude journal

How Burnout is Affecting Me

Like I said, great ideas, but I have not been doing any of that. I’ve been feeling a bit drained recently and I began thinking about the last time I truly took time off for myself. When you look at the list above, I ticked just about every box. Getting things done has been difficult. Some days it is hard to focus on all of the things that need to be done. It impacts my mood, my productivity, and, at times, it has an effect on our finances too.

More recently, I have had a lot of trouble sleeping, which was the biggest sign for me. Normally, I sleep pretty well and get around eight hours per night. Over the last few weeks, however, I have been waking up multiple times throughout the night. The sleep tracker on my smartwatch says I average between 30 and 50 minutes of deep sleep per night (Woah!). Now, this lack of sleep could be contributing to the rest of my symptoms, but when it comes down to it, I am burnt out. Period.

My mom always says, “The only thing you have to get done today is what you get done today.” I laugh when she says this because I think of my to-do list, which is normally about a mile long. But, really, how do you start to recover from burnout? What do you need to do to climb out of it and come back to your regular duties actually feeling refreshed?

Steps to Recover

Healthline wrote a great blog post about burnout and how you might be able to best recover if you hit that wall as I have.  Some of the suggestions include things like being firm about your boundaries and leaving work at work (two things I always struggle with). The blog also talked quite a bit about being in-tune with your own personal needs. On your days off, clear out your schedule and just relax. I’ll be honest, on my days off I’m usually running around checking even more things off my to-do list.

The Mommy Thrives blog mentioned mental health days and going on a hike. Hiking is one of my favorite things to do and I have not been on a hike since August 2019 (Yikes!). When it boils down to it, I’m not taking my downtime to truly tune into my personal needs or do anything I really enjoy. Instead, I’m thinking about all the things I could be doing.

Well, thankfully, I have a supportive husband who has seen this burnout coming from a mile away. He has been pushing me to do more things I enjoy and things to help my stress levels. I have started taking two yoga classes a week (which has been amazing) and in about a month we will both be unplugging for a long weekend at the beach. We never got our honeymoon and still actually have an Airbnb gift card from our wedding two years ago, so we will get one night free. While I’ll still have a month of work to do in the midst of this burnout, it is so nice to know I have these things to look forward to, to help me re-center.

Readers, how have you been able to recover from burnout in your own life? What tips do you have?

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Selling Back Some of Our Debt

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With recent career changes and a few months without a second income, we have been looking at ways to improve our finances. Like many other people during the pandemic, we experienced job loss and decreased wages last year. The loss in work pushed us to move sooner and make changes. One thing we settled on doing to help improve our situation was selling back debt that is no longer serving us. Here’s how we are doing it.

Selling Back Debt

You may be thinking to yourself, “There is no debt that serves you.” However, when it comes to the debt we have had to take out to further our careers, it was serving us in a way. You may remember my husband’s tool debt from his time in the shop as a mechanic. When the pandemic hit, the shop he was working for downsized, and he was one of the newest employees, so he was cut.

This put us in a position where we had to continue paying for tools that weren’t being used as well as a storage unit to keep them in. It was a major drag on our finances overall. Eventually, because we no longer had that second income, it became impossible to keep up with the monthly payments. So, we started looking at our options.

At first, we looked at selling the toolbox and some of the tools to help pay off the debt. Once again, the pandemic made this pretty impossible. No one was looking to spend thousands of dollars on a toolbox when a lot of other people were out of work too. Eventually, the account went into collections early this year as we continued to look at our options.

How Selling the Debt is Helping Us

After discussing the issue with the company we are indebted to, they said they would be willing to buy back some of the items he had purchased and subtract the total from the amount owed. While this didn’t completely get rid of the debt we have, it did get the storage bill off our backs. It also decreased the amount we owed by $7,500 when all was said and done.

We didn’t get rid of everything either. They wouldn’t buy back used tools. So, my husband still has everything he needs in the event he wants to return to working in a shop or wants to do some side work as a mechanic. So, the security of having the tools for the job is still there.

For now, it also gets the monthly bill off our plate. Obviously, the amount in collections will still need to be paid off, but the $400+ monthly bill is not weighing on us at this very moment. We can shift our focus to paying off some other items, getting things caught up, and then settling with the collections agency later on in the year. For us, that is a win.

Readers, have you ever sold back debt like we did? 

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Leading Through a Crisis

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Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs when one least expects it. Whether it’s the real estate market falling just after the purchase of a high-price building or a recession hitting right as the business starts to grow, it is not so much the problem itself that will define a person but how a person responds to it. There are many different types of advice about how to overcome obstacles but the principles below are common throughout. [Read more…]

How to Prepare for Big Life Changes

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Any time there are big changes in our lives, the financial planning aspect of things gives me a bit of anxiety. I begin to think about every penny we will need to make the new shift in our lives go off without a hitch and, guess what? Things almost never go to plan. Not exactly anyway. So, we have had to put some thought into how to prepare for big life changes headed our way.

Huge Changes Coming Our Way

In a few weeks’ time, I hope to be able to share some positive news with you all on the blog. There are some HUGE changes coming our way. They are also changes that will involve some financial planning and saving on our part. As you know, we recently moved into a new home. On top of that, we’ve been going through even more changes that will impact our family in a big way.

Thankfully, my husband recently got a new job. He is able to work from home with me now and his income will greatly assist with these changes. We are aiming to get a substantial amount of money saved and then looking to double up on our debt payments. Hopefully, within the year, we will have our car 100% paid for (that is the goal anyway).

Since we have started planning for this big change coming up in our lives, it got me thinking about how others prepare for big life changes. Of course, there is nothing that works for everyone but there are several common ideas and things most people do when they are prepping for something big.

How to Prepare for Big Life Changes

Depending on what kind of change you are preparing for, the steps to get there will look different. If you are preparing to buy your first home, you will be making some financial sacrifices and also spending a great deal to get ready for that. If the changes you are making are more personal in nature, like quitting cigarettes or getting sober, your steps will look different. However, each of these tips seems to be applicable across the board.

  1. Surround yourself with supportive people. When you are going through something life-changing, you need to build a solid support system. Find people with who you feel comfortable talking about your upcoming changes with who you can rely to be supportive when you need them. In some cases, this may mean financial support or simply emotional support to get through the big change.
  2. Express your feelings often. One big mistake people make when they are going through a big transition in life is not expressing themselves clearly. When you aren’t able to make your own emotions and thoughts known, it becomes difficult to shake them. For instance, if you feel like you have hit a wall with your financial goals and feel stuck, express that frustration to someone you trust. Getting those feelings out will help you tremendously.
  3. Know why you are making the changes you are making. For each small goal you have, know why you are making those changes and how it contributes to the bigger picture. Knowing the “why” behind each move you make can help motivate you.
  4. Be realistic with expectations. Many people hit walls or stop seeing progress because they aren’t realistic with the goals they set. If you are facing a huge life change like we are, it is important that you are down-to-earth with what to expect of yourself and others. Change does not happen overnight.
  5. Allow for difficulty. Nothing ever goes according to plan, not exactly anyway. Make concessions for difficulties that may befall you along the way and don’t let them hold you back. Simply alter your plans to adjust for the bump in the road and move on.
  6. Practice self-care. No matter what, you need to continue to take care of yourself. Practice self-care in whatever way is most rewarding for you (just make sure it doesn’t hinder your progress). For some people, this may be taking time out of the day to unplug and read a book – that is my personal favorite. Others may need to work out or unplug and take a nice bath. Think about how you practice self-care and schedule time for those things while you are going through big changes. This will help you stay on track and keep you sane.

When it comes to how to prepare for big life changes there is no “how-to” guide. You need to find what works best for you mentally, emotionally, physically, and go with that. It may not look the same as what worked for your friends or family, but if it works for you, that is all that matters.

Readers, how have you gone about preparing for big life changes? What was key for you?

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Why You Don’t Have to Choose Between Investing or Paying Off Debt

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A lot of people in the debt-free community (especially if they are Dave Ramsey followers) believe you have to choose between investing or paying off debt. This black-and-white thinking could potentially be holding you back from larger financial goals though. You don’t have to choose. You can do both. Here’s how.

Choosing Between Investing or Paying Off Debt

Any time you come into some “extra” money it is difficult to decide where it should be allocated. When your finances are the main focus in your life, like it is for many of us, it is hard to decide whether you should be investing in your future or focused on paying off debt.

The answer to this question will vary from person-to-person and family-to-family. After all, personal finance is personal, right? If you still hold a lot of debt, no you shouldn’t be thinking about making any investments right now. Focus on getting your high-interest debts paid off and then shift your gaze to making investments for the future.

For us, our main focus has been paying off debt. I’ve had people ask, “Why aren’t you investing yet?” I always thought to myself, “Well, because I still hold a lot of debt.” That does not necessarily mean you can’t invest though. In fact, in some cases, your return on your investment may benefit you more than paying off your debts. That is a rather unpopular opinion in debt-free circles online though.

Now, that isn’t to say that you should drop down to minimum payments on all of your debts and throw the extra cash into an investment portfolio. You have to go about it the right way.

How to Invest While Paying Off Debt

So, how do you invest while simultaneously paying off debt?

Investing and paying off debt are both good uses of your money any way you look at it. However, you want to be sure you are making the most of every penny. At the end of the day, paying off your high-interest debts will provide a better return on your money than any investment you will make. Make a list of your debts from highest to lowest interest.

The key is to look at interest rates versus your potential return. If the return you’d be earning is higher than the interest you are paying on your debts, make the investment. For example, if you hold a mortgage loan that has 5% interest but your portfolio return is 10%, the investment may be the better decision for you. Unfortunately, for the most part, investments are not always that straightforward. Something that is performing well this year may not be next year.

Many people use investments this way to come up with the money they need to pay off their debt more quickly as well. If you think you can earn in the stock market in a way that will further your debt freedom goals, do it! But you really need to put thought into the numbers before making that move.

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More Money, More Problems?

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The Notorious B.I.G., or Biggie, once said “more money, more problems.” For Biggie, that rang true in many ways, but most of us “everyday” people think to ourselves. More money would probably solve 90% of my problems. However, it is true. The more money you make, the more problems you’ll have to solve.

Why We Need More Money

In my case, we have to push to earn more money to solve our problems. We’ve had a lot of unexpected expenses recently. Doctor’s visits, car repairs, and buying health insurance have had us pinching pennies for several weeks. Our fix? Well, make more money, of course.

Many people in the personal finance space tend to say, “No, you don’t need more money, you need a tighter budget” or “You need to pay down your debt.” While these things are absolutely true, our cost-of-living for our family is increasing. Here are some of the recent (expected and unexpected) costs we’ve encountered.

  • Two out-of-pocket doctor’s visits: $500
  • Purchasing health insurance: $278 (and $278 recurring cost)
  • Oil change on the car: $106
  • New tires on the car with alignment: $550

There are some more repairs needed on the car in the near future as well. As you can see, we’ve had well over $1,000 in recent expenses and these are only continuing to pile up. So, we’ve been looking at ways to earn more money.

Hubby Got a New Job

Our biggest “win” as far as earning more has been my husband landing a new job. He has been contemplating whether or not he wants to go back to work in a shop or not. After moving back to North Carolina from Atlanta, he decided to focus on looking for something car-related but not as a mechanic.

He landed an awesome gig writing about cars and working from home. It has been about two months and he has been published multiple times now. Eventually, he would like to expand to car reviews, videos, and podcasts, but this is a great start. What’s even better is it pays really well, so we are going to be able to afford all the repairs coming up and my health insurance each month.

We are also going to need new computers soon (both of ours are on their last legs). Luckily, we both have some flexibility in our earnings and can push to make more when we need it. So, in our case, more money will solve a lot of our problems.

I still love the Biggie song though…

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