My husband and I haven’t ever really celebrated Valentine’s Day in the past. Early on in our relationship, our finances were an absolute mess and we were homeless together. While that’s thankfully no longer the case, we’ve always looked at it for what it was: a retail holiday. However, with our little one becoming more aware of holidays and other things, this year was a bit different. Honestly, this Valentine’s Day was great for our family and fantastic for our marriage.
Why We Didn’t Do Valentine’s Day
In the past, as I mentioned above, Valentine’s Day was typically a day that came and went without any fuss. Of course, we’d both say “Happy Valentine’s Day,” give the other one a kiss and go about our days. That’s not any different from any other day throughout the year though.
Our reasons for this varied. We had a lot of past relationship trauma from previous partners that made the holiday hard to enjoy. Not to mention, there were several years when celebrating some in-between holiday was not possible. We were broke and there was no room in the budget for any of it.
On top of that, Valentine’s Day always felt like a big deal for nothing. I’m not something who wants to be showered in flowers or candy – neither is he. We both enjoy more practical gifts and don’t like to buy into retail holidays (unless we are cashing in on the sales afterwards).
This year was a little bit different though, all thanks to my husband.
How We Celebrated This Year
The past couple of weeks have been tremendously stressful in our household. My husband and I are both working on multiple projects at our jobs. Our little one is cutting more teeth and, to top it off, our dog got very sick. After a few months of health issues myself, everything piling up made the world feel like it was on fire.
Being the man he is, my husband knew how to turn that around, at least a little bit. He snuck out of the house during the day, grabbed me some roses and grabbed our daughter a small present. We both got little Reese’s candies. Then, he revealed he’d planned to order dinner in so that I didn’t have to stress over dinner after a busy workday.
In truth, it was absolutely perfect. It was a nice pick-me-up from the weeks and months of stress piling up. Even more than that, the gesture brought a spark back into our marriage that I hadn’t realized fizzled to begin with.
All of this to say, if you’re against V-Day, I understand. But don’t let a single day go by without telling your spouse you love them or making some small gesture to brighten their days. Don’t go way out of your budget or do anything crazy, but the smallest things can make a huge difference.
We’re people that celebrate Valentine’s Day now. What about you? Do you celebrate?