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Can You Talk to Your Spouse’s Collection Agency?

February 21, 2024 | Leave a Comment

Talk to your spouse's collection agency

As you know, I recently got married. My husband and I have had anything but “normal” for the first few months of marriage. We’ve moved, had a few job changes, moved again, and now we are finally ready to refocus on paying off our debt. Hubby doesn’t like to call and talk to anyone on the phone when it comes to finances, which got me wondering on how I can help. More importantly, I needed to find out if you can talk to your spouse’s collection agency.

Can You Talk to Your Spouse’s Collection Agency?

Many people would read that and say, “make him do it himself.” However, in our marriage, it is important we both support each other in the areas we aren’t super comfortable in. For me, he takes care of in-person meetings and anything we have to take care of face-to-face. I take care of bills, most of the finances, and anything we need to make calls about.

So, the answer is yes, you can talk to your spouse’s collection agency. As far as collections are concerned, a spouse is the same debtor. You may even receive calls about your husband or wife’s debt without being asked to.

No collection agency is allowed to disclose information to any other third party without consent. To get that, you will need to give verbal and/or written consent to the collection agency for the third party (friend, relative, etc.).

Some additional information may be needed to verify you have consent to talk to the collection agency as well. In some cases, they will ask you to set up a verbal password for the phone. Other times, they will ask you to verify the account holder’s Social Security number, phone number, account number, or other identifying information.

Managing Debts Together

Most of our debt is in joint accounts (except for my student loans). For the most part, I draw up the budget, and plans for paying off debt each month. My husband has a certain amount of “play” money that he uses for whatever he’d like, as do I.

When it comes to managing money together, that is what works best for us. I think it is different for every couple. Finding what works for you and your spouse is what is important.

How do you and your other half manage money together? 

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Valentine’s Day: Money and Marriage Reflection

February 14, 2024 | Leave a Comment

<p>My husband and I haven’t ever really celebrated Valentine’s Day in the past. Early on in our relationship, our finances were an absolute mess and we were homeless together. While that’s thankfully no longer the case, we’ve always looked at it for what it was: a retail holiday. However, with our little one becoming more aware of holidays and other things, this year was a bit different. Honestly, this Valentine’s Day was great for our family and fantastic for our marriage.</p>::Pexels

My husband and I haven’t ever really celebrated Valentine’s Day in the past. Early on in our relationship, our finances were an absolute mess and we were homeless together. While that’s thankfully no longer the case, we’ve always looked at it for what it was: a retail holiday. However, with our little one becoming more aware of holidays and other things, this year was a bit different. Honestly, this Valentine’s Day was great for our family and fantastic for our marriage.

Why We Didn’t Do Valentine’s Day

In the past, as I mentioned above, Valentine’s Day was typically a day that came and went without any fuss. Of course, we’d both say “Happy Valentine’s Day,” give the other one a kiss and go about our days. That’s not any different from any other day throughout the year though.

Our reasons for this varied. We had a lot of past relationship trauma from previous partners that made the holiday hard to enjoy. Not to mention, there were several years when celebrating some in-between holiday was not possible. We were broke and there was no room in the budget for any of it.

On top of that, Valentine’s Day always felt like a big deal for nothing. I’m not something who wants to be showered in flowers or candy – neither is he. We both enjoy more practical gifts and don’t like to buy into retail holidays (unless we are cashing in on the sales afterwards).

This year was a little bit different though, all thanks to my husband.

How We Celebrated This Year

The past couple of weeks have been tremendously stressful in our household. My husband and I are both working on multiple projects at our jobs. Our little one is cutting more teeth and, to top it off, our dog got very sick. After a few months of health issues myself, everything piling up made the world feel like it was on fire.

Being the man he is, my husband knew how to turn that around, at least a little bit. He snuck out of the house during the day, grabbed me some roses and grabbed our daughter a small present. We both got little Reese’s candies. Then, he revealed he’d planned to order dinner in so that I didn’t have to stress over dinner after a busy workday.

In truth, it was absolutely perfect. It was a nice pick-me-up from the weeks and months of stress piling up. Even more than that, the gesture brought a spark back into our marriage that I hadn’t realized fizzled to begin with.

All of this to say, if you’re against V-Day, I understand. But don’t let a single day go by without telling your spouse you love them or making some small gesture to brighten their days. Don’t go way out of your budget or do anything crazy, but the smallest things can make a huge difference.

We’re people that celebrate Valentine’s Day now. What about you? Do you celebrate?

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